Mother’s Day Special: Interview with Mommies from the Kodecoon Community

This Mother’s Day, to celebrate and appreciate our hard working mommies, we teamed up with our Kodecooners and made a surprise video! Check out the heartwarming video here.

In the video, we have heard from our Kodecooners talk about how they want to make their moms proud by getting into a good university, how they are thankful for taking care of them tirelessly for all these years (and many years to come) and even little loving moments they shared like, making boba tea together!

On the flip side, what would our mothers have to say? 

We conducted a virtual interview with a few mommies in our Kodecoon community. Read on to hear about their views on technology, how it is like being a working mom and how they engage their children to maximise their learning potential!

Image credits to Lydia

Meet Lydia, Rainmaker, Tech Advocate, Mother of 2

Tell us more about you!
I am Lydia, mum to 2 boys 10 years (Ryan) and 12 years old (Ethan). I currently oversee the business development aspects of Flying Cape, which is the largest advisory and booking platform for enrichment classes and activities in Singapore. My aspiration is to make a difference in the learning experiences of the next generation and help them discover their interests and passions.

You definitely have a strong influence in your kids’ lives when it comes to adopting and embracing technology. What are your opinions on kids learning to code? 
In my field of work, I have seen how learning can be engaging and immersive with application of the right technology to change the way that children learn. So in this ever-evolving age of digital transformation, I think that coding is an extremely useful skill to pick up as in the future many sectors are going to be heavily reliant on computer codes, beyond the technology sector. Having an understanding of the basics of coding and computer programming would help them develop an appreciation of how things function, and also teaches them to problem solve in a logical manner. At the same time, through coding, kids also get to develop creativity by experimenting and making mistakes as there is more than one way to do something. So this inculcates a set of skills that will last a lifetime. Somehow kids of this generation tend to pick up coding easily as it intrigues and interests them, so it’s also a confidence booster as coding gives them the opportunity to be confident and create something in a fun and exciting way.

What were some of the challenges you faced when your kids were growing up? 
The hardest challenge, which I still face, is how to get the kids to learn to cope with failures. As parents, it’s always a natural instinct to protect your child and try to fix things for them, but that’s not truly helping them as they don’t get to experience the consequences of their actions. It’s our job as parents to help the kids through difficult times, but sometimes that entails making them struggle, fall, and go through disappointments and rejections. 

“At the same time, through coding, kids also get to develop creativity by experimenting and making mistakes as there is more than one way to do something. So this inculcates a set of skills that will last a lifetime.”

As technology becomes more important, how have your views on more “traditional” careers like medicine/law changed? 
Much as there is going to be a lot of automation in the future world, I feel that there are still certain careers like medicine and law, which will still require human intervention to communicate and assess issues. However, technology is still important, as artificial intelligence and new forms of technology will be useful in the diagnosis of problems, analyse trends and predict outcomes accurately. While technology will not be able to totally replace the more traditional careers, it would be a tremendous aid still to improve efficiency and accuracy. ​

Since this is a Mother’s day blog feature, is there anything in particular you are hoping to get as a Mother’s Day present? Or is there any wish you hope to be fulfilled? 
Despite the current circuit breaker situation, I wish that our kids continue to learn despite the various disruptions to their life. Parents can also play an important role during this period to teach our kids valuable lessons in resilience, adaptability and life skills. For myself, this is also a time where I find that I have an opportunity to observe and better understand the development gaps in my kids, and think of ways to plug those gaps. 

Any closing remarks you will like to share with the mothers out there?
Happy Mother’s Day to all mums. It’s been a stressful period, juggling work-from-home and home-based-learning, so all mums should enjoy their well-deserved break on this special day.

Image credits to Joyner

Meet Joyner, Mom In Tech, Mother of 2

Tell us more about you!
I am a working mother of two monkeys, ages 8 and 6+. As you may already know, I am also working in the IT industry for a Swiss-based software company that specialises in banking solutions such as core banking and private wealth management.

I have always been working in the tech industry specialising in banking and finance since getting my diploma. Back then, I didn’t really know what was in it for me when I chose to study computer science. I wanted to go into journalism but changed my mind at the last minute. I also did not want to go into business or engineering school hence the next best choice available was computer science. 

In my spare time, I like to read but nowadays any free time I get I will just devote it to watching the Big Bang Theory on reruns! I am definitely guilty as well devoting too much time on sitcom reruns.

So as a mom in tech, you definitely have a strong influence on your kid’s life when it comes to adopting and embracing technology. What are your opinions on kids learning to code? 
Yes, as a mom in tech, I am all for embracing and adopting technology. My opinion on kids learning to code is akin to kids learning to speak a 2nd language. Coding is a life skill that teaches not just programming but also teaches the child to think in a creative yet logical fashion which is really applicable in the real world. There is also a lot of satisfaction in having their own control over a piece of code and eventually seeing their ideas and creation come to life. Kids who code can really be independent too, because they are used to thinking on their own to make something work.

Yes.. Increasingly important as a second language like what our teacher Deddy always mentioned about digital literacy. Do you actively participate in your kids’ learning, even when it comes to enrichment, say piano lessons, or learning to code?

My kids do not have any other enrichment classes other than coding lessons at Kodecoon! ?

Yes I think it is important for parents to be attuned to what their children are learning or doing and not simply taking enrichment classes as a means to keep their child occupied or sending them to enrichment classes because other children are also doing the same thing. The fundamental of choosing an enrichment class for the child has to be really about the child, that he or she has interest in the class and is something that they enjoy so that it is the best use of their time. With the active participation from the parent, it also fosters the bond between the parent and child, and the child will feel good about sharing what they have learnt or even be proud to show off what they have done at the end of the class. So yes I do actively participate in my kids’ learning. Teacher Chee Wah will say the same thing too. Haha! 

“There is also a lot of satisfaction in having their own control over a piece of code and eventually seeing their ideas and creation come to life.”

That’s great to hear! What really heartens me is knowing that a lot of Kodecoon parents I know are active participants in their kids’ learning. Are there any challenges that you have encountered?
The challenge I have is trying to reiterate what the teacher had taught to my kids when they come to me with questions, not just for their enrichment classes but also when it comes to their school work. As adults we get simple problems and questions really fast and sometimes end up teaching the child different approaches to solving the problem thus confusing them because that is not what they have been taught in school. So on my part, I have to read through their textbooks or reach out to the teachers and see how they have been taught so that I don’t confuse my kids. This is especially so for mathematics, the way they are taught now is so different from the way I was taught. ?

Another challenge for me is I tend to end up helping my kid more than I should. Sometimes I see that they are struggling or I had to rush off to do something else hence don’t have time to sit there and wait for them to try to figure out the current problem before moving on to the next question. I think patience is key. 

I agree! Many times we overlook that kids’ thinking process is different from ours and knowing how to break things down to simpler forms to explain to them is key. shifting the gears a bit to ask something more about being a parent.. Do you remember what was going through your head when you first saw/held your child?
​I remember the first thing that came to my mind was “wow, he has a lot of hair for a newborn baby!” And it’s true, many people commented that Rayson had a lot of hair when they visited us in the ward. It was a beautiful moment, albeit I was blurry under the influence of the epidural. At that moment, it is a new journey for both of us and I just think to myself how precious he is to me.

Since this is a Mother’s day blog feature, is there anything in particular you are hoping to get as a Mother’s Day present? Or is there any wish you hope to be fulfilled? 
It is my pleasure to be part of this! I have but only one wish and that is for my kids to be healthy and live righteously, with lots of love and happiness in their lives! I am blessed to be their mother so every day is a gift to me.

Image credits to June 

Meet June, Freelance Writer & Editor, Mother of 3

Tell us more about you!
I work from home as a freelance writer and editor. I have 3 kids aged 7, 9, and 11. And I drink coffee to keep myself sane. We all need that daily cuppa to keep us going.

Do you mind sharing more about your journey to how you became a freelance writer?
I’ve always loved writing and dreamt about writing as a child. I was in corporate PR before this for about 10 years, but left to take care of the kids. So freelance writing was a natural avenue for me to create and write, while also making a living.

What lessons have your work life taught you over the years that you hope your children will pick up or learn?
I hope they will learn to roll with it and be nimble when life throws a curved ball or unexpected things happen. To think on their feet and stay calm. Also, to not be afraid to pursue their interests and follow their hearts. To ask for help and be humble when you don’t know the way.  To treat others as you wish to be treated.

Yes, like what you said, I’m sure this circuit breaker period and the whole transition to home-based learning is an example of a sudden curved ball being thrown at us. What were some of the challenges you faced as a mother when your kids were growing up?
With babies in hand, it was hard to maintain a social life or a life you’d call your own. Your identity is enmeshed with theirs and sometimes you forget you have needs and desires as a person. As they grew older, I think I reclaimed my identity gradually and having some form of work or leisure activity helps me feel fulfilled as a person. Also, helping them form a sense of self, encouraging them to develop their own unique interests and hobbies. I would say as they grew older, this came to the fore.

What are some of their unique interests/hobbies? How do you help to encourage them to do more exploration and try out new things as kids?
​When they were younger, we would try out new things with them, whether it’s making music, reading books, or playing with craft or blocks. As they grew, certain interests or skills became more obvious. So we would encourage them to expand these skills with either classes or certain toys or kits we could buy. I would say, first we do with them (shared activity), then we let them do it themselves (as they grow in independence).

This statement is so true! Some kids need some comfort from the initial hand-holding, but after which, when they are able to independently problem solve, it’s their time to fly!

Do you remember what was going through your head when you first saw/held your child? 
I was spellbound and awestruck at the same time, even though I was still experiencing some post-birth pains and discomfort. Holding your baby is like anaesthesia, a balm for a mother’s soul.

Since this is a Mother’s day blog feature, is there anything in particular you are hoping to get as a Mother’s Day present? Or is there any wish you hope to be fulfilled? 
I love words so any handmade card would make my day. 🙂 No big wish, just hope we will keep it together and stay safe and sane during this covid period.

Meet Lynn, Stay At Home Mom, Mother of 1

Tell us more about you!
Well about me, I am a stay at home mum currently. Having being around for my child and family full time is definitely something that’s enjoyable 🙂

As a stay-home mom, do you actively participate in your kids’ learning, even when it comes to enrichment, say piano lessons, or learning to code? If yes, what are your thoughts? Any challenges? If not, how do you think your child is enjoying it? What kind of support do you think can be given more to kids to ensure they learn better?
Yes I would say 80%. We have a routine after she gets off from school and that routine is of course complete school homework.  She only has 1 maths tuition and of course the weekly Kodecoon classes 🙂 
Due to the current situation when all lessons are online, I can literally see how classes are conducted. I give her the freedom in her class and will check in with her after each class. For example, she will usually show me the game that she has developed after the class and will ask me to play as well so that’s good fun.

That’s great to hear that Leia shows you the games she has created!
Yes, I would ask questions to engage her. If she knows what to do, she will use her knowledge to improve the game and if she doesn’t have an answer yet, she would ask her teacher the next lesson and then update me about it.

What made you send Leia to coding classes? Think there is this common conception that girls won’t enjoy computer science. The ratio of girls in computer science major as well is lower than male students.
We happen to participate in an event during a roadshow at the airport.  Leia chose the coding class as the introduction sounds fun. Parents then waited at the side. Throughout that session, I saw how Deddy and Himmy engaged the kids in a fun way so that’s a tick for me. Leia was drawn to it as well. After the session, she said she liked it and it’s fun. I spoke to Deddy and got to understand more about coding too. Yes the misconception and stigma will remain like how all nurses must be females but I guess it doesn’t matter as long as the kid likes what they are learning.

Oh! the Changi airport terminal 2 Playventure event! What are your opinions on kids learning to code? You can share a bit maybe before Leia starts her coding classes and after when you saw how she developed an interest for it
I think it’s good! Can’t imagine that kids at their age get to learn coding already! Now that everything is going digital, learning coding is important as it exposes the kids to the world of the future. As for Leia, she’s still developing an interest in it and looking forward to making new games each time with an increased level of difficulty.

Yes! thinking back in previous times… I was probably not doing much at her age. How do you think you can help Leia to develop these skills or continue to foster her interest?
Yes, I agree. We were probably doing very different stuff from what the kids are doing right now. But the cons for kids to get exposed to internet stuff too early are real. The cyber bullying, scams, being hooked to online games and social media influences are very real. I will continue to engage with Leia after her class and understand more about the games they are doing and what she wishes she can develop. I guess parents will know if their kids enjoy the class or not. As long as she enjoys what she is learning, we are definitely happy to support the interest.

Maybe last question before I hold up too much of your time. Since this is a Mother’s day blog feature, is there anything in particular you are hoping to get as a Mother’s Day present? Or is there any wish you hope to be fulfilled?
It may sound lame..  besides good health, I wish Leia could grow up to be a kind person and also be successful in her work career in the future 🙂